How many of you find it easy to admit to your weaknesses? How often do you struggle with admitting a weakness to a friend or partner or even to yourself?
Do you ever feel a sting when a close person in your life points out a weakness that you weren’t aware you had? Or maybe it is just that person’s opinion but not your own? It’s tough knowing sometimes, whether we actually have that weakness that this person is pointing out to us..Is the sting we feel trying to tell us that maybe it is actually true?!
What one person considers a weakness doesn’t mean that the other person thinks so too..
For example, I may think that it is a weakness for someone to expect me to be perfect, when I am actually completely comfortable being less than perfect. It is not my problem this other person needs perfection from those around him, including me. I personally find the need to be perfect exhausting, therefore I am more happy to give everything my best shot and even if it doesn’t turn out amazingly, at least I tried.
Another point worth mentioning, is the difficulty some of us may have when it comes to admitting fault or weakness, because we actually fear what others think of us. If we are actually perfectionists by nature and set ourselves high standards all the time, then to admit that we have actually failed at something is out of the question. It is in this very case, I believe, that we need to work more on ourselves. Our own thoughts and the way we see the world, can either make our life more fulfilling or severely limiting. Some of us also may find criticism excruciatinly painful, because deep down we know we are flawed, wrong or not good enough. This may be because of negative programming in our childhood or from pressure to always show our best and most socially acceptable side.
Accepting and embracing our weaknesses, increases our awareness of where we might be limiting ourselves.
If someone has harmed us and this has impacted us in a destructive way, then this is slightly different. We have a right to be angry and put the blame where it belongs (in the case of murder,domestic abuse, child abuse etc). Working through grief about the unfotunate things that happen to us in life, is necessary for healing. Despite this though, we are still in charge of how we deal with whatever life has dealt us. It is always up to us to work hard at making changes in the areas we suffer with the most.We can either be a victim and sit back and point fingers at everyone else or we can take responsibility and take small steps to creating opportunities from our challenges.
Love Athina ♥
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It is so important to be able to self-reflect in a world full of disordered people. With self-reflection and self-awareness we can become better people and improve our lives greatly. ❤
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I have actually found, in my work with colleagues, clients and students, that they are most likely to agonize over their supposed “weaknesses” – which indicates an acceptance of that point of view to some extent. They struggle MORE, or so it has seemed to me, with self-acknowledgment of their areas of brilliance.
They are willing to admit what I call their “minor” strengths, but they frequently collapse ego with self- acknowlegment, hiding their light under a bushel for fear of appearing “conceited” or self-aggrandizing.
Check out “When Acknowledgment Backfires: Owning our Brilliance” for more about what I believe is an important topic.
(Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMore dot com)
– ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder –
“It takes a village to transform a world!”
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Thank you for this.Will definetely check it out x
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Super – eager to hear what you think.