Being selfish the right way


‘Selfish’ means that you care enough about yourself to get your needs met; selfishness is a choice.

On the other hand, when you think about being ‘needy’, this means that your unmet/unknown needs motivate you — there’s no choice. This is when you become a people-pleaser and you lack the assertiveness to say no.

This isn’t where you want to be in this journey called life.

Selfish does not mean to focus exclusively on yourself — it just means that you easily can when you need to.

Selfish does not mean you become an irresponsible 4 year old, who does whatever he/she wants and ignores the needs of their family or their work.

Selfish means that you learn to love, value, accept, forgive, be true to, and care for yourself fully and wholeheartedly. 

Healthy selfishness feels like taking a risk because you might have been brought up to believe that being selfish is a bad thing. However, healthy selfishness simply means you do not disregard yourself to please others or to support others at your own expense. Healthy selfishness means that you practice self-love and self-care.

How do you see yourself? Do you practice healthy selfishness?

I’d love to hear your experiences..

Love Athina ♥♥

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Author: Courage Coaching

I provide empowerment, empathy & support. I specialise in dealing with dysfunctional relationships, particularly narcissistic abuse & encouraging self-compassion.

8 thoughts on “Being selfish the right way”

  1. I need to learn how to be this way as right now I have no clue how to do that. I grew up being told I was selfish about so many things in life that now it just seems totally wrong to me. 😦

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