Those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder sadly lack empathy and don’t feel remorse. They are cold, calculating, manipulative and emotionally shallow.
Narcissists don’t form relationships with others like healthy people do. They don’t seek out partners to love and share their life with in an equal, loving and respectful way. They see people as objects that they use to satisfy their needs.
These needs are usually attention, an ego stroke, improved social status, shelter, money, sex or a combination of these. These needs sadly do not include love.
Narcissists attach themselves to their victims and slowly bleed them dry, either financially or emotionally or both. They are known as being “parasitic” in nature, as they literally leech off their victims to get their needs met.
When Narcissists first meet their victims, they trick them into believing that they are their soul mate. They present themselves as the perfect potential partner and they create an intensely emotional experience for the victim. They will pretend to be supportive, loving, romantic etc. so their victim falls for them fast. Once they have lured their victim in successfully, the mask slips and their true colours start to show.
By this stage, the victim has already invested himself/herself completely in the relationship. The victim hopes that the narcissist will return to being the loving and kind person that they were at the beginning of the relationship. This exact thought is what makes them stay in the relationship despite any abuse they may be experiencing.
It’s really hard to believe, and it’s even harder to accept, but narcissists are not able to love anyone in a healthy way or create healthy bonds.
Narcissists also thrive on the emotional pain they cause their victims, especially when they hurt them on purpose. They feel important when they abandon their victim suddenly and see how much suffering they cause. The more suffering they see in their victim, the more important they feel.
Narcissists cause their victims extreme psychological damage and they are left feeling depressed and traumatised. Recovery is a slow process for survivors of narcissistic abuse but luckily it is possible to recover and find healthy love in the future.
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6 thoughts on “The sad truth about why narcissists form relationships”
Reading this is like reading what I went through before I escaped.
I am so sorry to hear this Sheri although I am glad you escape! Hugs to you!
i know i would not ever inflict myself on anyone on purpose.
I am trying to help a person not get hurt, but she does not want to hear from other family members about him as they have known him for many years. is there any one thing I can tell her? Your 30 traits of a narcissist was very very
good, however if you can do another one and keep your hands out of the camera it would be less distracting. I couldn’t stop watching your hands.
That was the 1st video I made and was very inexperienced with making videos..Luckily, I picked up on it and haven’t done this again! I am sorry to hear about your friend. If you would like to email me directly with a little more context, then that would help me answer your question 🙂
Hmm.. you know what? Your explanation regarding narcissists and how manipulative they are really enlightened me. I have a friend whose spouse is exactly like that and it really annoys me to say the least. I guess it’s time for her to seek professional help so she won’t suffer in the long run.