Breaking the cycle of your childhood abuse-Start being kind to yourself

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Of course it isn’t as simple as the 4 things written in the photo but it is definetely true that in order to break the horrible pattern of abuse from your childhood, you have to stop abusing yourself. YOU hold the answers to how much you will recover and it is up to you to start changing your thought patterns day by day..Nobody ever said it would be easy but it is possible..

The internalised messages of ‘You are not good enough, you are stupid’ are just repeats of what your abusers told you. They aren’t the ‘real’ you! The real you is a worthwhile person who deserves love and happiness.The real you is a person who deserves to heal and doesn’t need a nasty inner critic. With the help of a therapist or a coach, you can keep yourself on track. By having someone to report to, this might help you be more motivated. It is very important to keep trying as your brain needs sustained effort to learn ‘new, healthier messages’. That is why it is important to practice the above steps every day.

Your brain needs time to destroy the old habit wiring already in existence and then build new wiring for your new empowering positive affirmations.

Whatever your mind keeps hearing, it will eventually accept as truth. So what you want to do is to start repeating your new positive thoughts to yourself. Do it constantly. Do it repeatedly. Do it daily. Do it with passion, conviction and belief.

Author: Courage Coaching

I provide empowerment, empathy & support. I specialise in dealing with dysfunctional relationships, particularly narcissistic abuse & encouraging self-compassion.

7 thoughts on “Breaking the cycle of your childhood abuse-Start being kind to yourself”

  1. Hi Athina, I couldn’t find a comment section on your About and I wanted to thank you for liking my comment on Dream Big Dream Often’s blog. Your About I found especially interesting with your experience in working with people with dementia and intellectual disabilities. I look forward to reading your posts and hopefully learning more about dementia and how to handle affected family members. Steph

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, for the follow and your kind words. I have found through my experience that it can be extremely upsetting for family members to cope with anyone suffering from a disability or illness. It is important for family to practice self-care and have time-out as often as possible. The confusion that people with dementia feel is so upsetting to watch and it is so important to be comforting and show them old photos, talk about the things that they would like to talk about and encourage them to take up a creative activity as much as they can manage. Items of comfort such as teddies are especially important for really old people suffering from dementia..

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      1. Now that you mention it, I remember we gave my grandmother, who had Alzheimer disease a teddy bear and it seemed to give her a little comfort. I’ll have to try this with my mother.

        We’re beginning to notice my aunt (my mother’s sister) is exhibiting signs of dementia. She’s been caring for my uncle who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago.

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