I have met many people who have very strong morals and values and are stuck working in a company that doesn’t reflect these in the slightest.
I have also met people who are lucky enough to actually have a job that reflects their values but in their personal life this isn’t the case.
What is it that stops people from ditching the uncomfortable situations they find themselves in and going for what they really want? Is it timing or circumstance?Or maybe they are just unlucky in their choices. Things start off well and then things take a turn for the worse.
The reason that people struggle with changing something in their life is due to the fear of it being the wrong choice again. I mean if it has already happened once, it can happen again right?
This is very common and when it comes to jobs or relationships it is quite understandable that people worry about not finding the right one.
In cognitive behavioural coaching, the coach can help the coachee self-reflect on their thought processes and find the thoughts that may be blocking them from making a decision. It can also assist with the steps that the coachee needs to take to reach their goal.
As always stated in any coaching session, motivation is key. If the coachee isn’t motivated to make a change then change won’t happen.
Humans are fallible beings and we all have moments where we over-complicate the way we live our lives.
It is very difficut to balance our work-family-personal life without getting overwhelmed.
There are always those overly boring tasks that we always put off or that presentation at work that we have to get perfect. Many of us find rejection quite painful and have thoughts such as ‘No one will ever love me again’ or ‘I’m just not attractive enough’. Others find it easier to make excuses and blame their failings on their past. Being a victim is easier than taking responsibility for our own life.
Many of us are control-freaks and want to go as far as controlling what we are physically unable to control, like other people’s opinions or reactions to us.
There are many thinking errors that we all indulge in but how do you even recognise you are making such errors in the first place?
When people suffer from depression & anxiety, thinking errors are very common as they are part of the illness. Cognitive behavioural coaching can be very useful for tackling these unhelpful thinking patterns. There are many models and exercises that can be very helpful in helping someone get ‘unstuck’ and the coach is trained to use these models in a conversational way with the person they are coaching.
In my own experience, I have found coaching very helpful in dealing with anxiety inducing situations. What is your experience? Have you had coaching before? Is it something you would ever consider?
Take a little look at the different links on this page and if you are curious in any way, then let me know.
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