If you have noticed the following red flags in a person close to you, then you need to take precautions. Below is a check list which you need to pay close attention to. The more of these you can relate to, the quicker you need to remove yourself from a relationship with such a disordered person.
Narcissists are everywhere and can be both male or female. They can be partners, family members, friends, teachers, managers, therapists, coaches, spiritual advisors, neighbours and any person in a position of power.
PATTERNS TO WATCH OUT FOR
- You have a feeling something is wrong or feels off
- Constant lying or exaggerating
- No regards for rules or laws
- Overly concerned with public image
- Has too many chaotic relationships in their past
- Never apologises
- Makes excuses often
- Poor financial management
- No accountability
- Destroyed relationships
- No real friendships
- Demands trust
- Projects their feelings onto you
- You feel uncomfortable or in danger
- Aggressive/Passive Aggressive
- Has double standards
- Cheats in relationships
- Blames others constantly
- Controlling
- Isolating
- Two faced and hyper critical
- Backstabber
- Acts differently in private and in public
- Drug or alcohol addict
- Distorts facts to suit their needs
- Plays the victim often
- Insults, teases, smirks
- Provokes and then blames
- Creates circular conversations
- Is shaming
- Is condescending
- Twists your words in arguments
- Your feelings aren’t validated
- They can have different personas around different people
- They guilt-trip you
- They thrive on drama
- The thrive on causing you pain
- They know how to push your buttons
- They have to always be right
- They can’t laugh at themselves
- They belittle your accomplishments
- They compete with you
- They often gaslight you
- They give you the silent treatment
- They turn others against you including family
- They alienate children from the other parent
- They withhold attention or affection as a manipulation tactic
- They give you inconsistent details of their past
- They are ruled by money and want yours
- They get bored easily
- They are status orientated
- They are self-centred and entitled
- They have a big ego
- They groom their victims
- They badmouth their exes yet return to them to make you jealous
- When meeting a potential partner they love bomb them.
- They remember things you did years ago and bring them up in arguments
- They rewrite history to suit them
- Can pretend to be hyper-emotional so they can manipulate others
- They might constantly correct you – nothing you do is ever right
If you think you are indeed dealing with a narcissist and need support, then please feel free to contact me. Detaching from or dealing with a narcissist is not an easy task, especially if they are a partner or family member.
If you feel you are in danger, then please contact your nearest Refuge or move to a location the narcissist doesn’t know about. Record all conversations if you can (stick to texts or emails) so nothing can be used against you.
Most of all, look after yourself. Self-care is extremely important!
Love Athina ♥♥♥
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