Tag: Domestic abuse

If you have noticed the following red flags in a person close to you, then you need to take precautions. Below is a check list which you need to pay close attention to. The more of these you can relate to, the quicker you need to remove yourself from a relationship with such a disordered person.

Narcissists are everywhere and can be both male or female. They can be partners, family members, friends, teachers, managers, therapists, coaches, spiritual advisors, neighbours and any person in a position of power.

PATTERNS TO WATCH OUT FOR

1.  You have a feeling something is wrong or feels off
2. Constant lying or exaggerating
3. No regards for rules or laws
4. Overly concerned with public image
5. Has too many chaotic relationships in their past
6. Never apologises
7. Makes excuses often
8. Poor financial management
9. No accountability
10. Destroyed relationships
11. No real friendships
12. Demands trust
13. Projects their feelings onto you
14. You feel uncomfortable or in danger
15. Aggressive/Passive Aggressive
16. Has double standards
17. Cheats in relationships
18. Blames others constantly
19. Controlling
20. Isolating
21. Two faced and hyper critical
22. Backstabber
23. Acts differently in private and in public
24. Drug or alcohol addict
25. Distorts facts to suit their needs
26. Plays the victim often
27. Insults, teases, smirks
28. Provokes and then blames
29. Creates circular conversations
30. Is shaming
31. Is condescending
32. Twists your words in arguments
33. Your feelings aren’t validated
34. They can have different personas around different people
35. They guilt-trip you
36. They thrive on drama
37. The thrive on causing you pain
38. They know how to push your buttons
39. They have to always be right
40. They can’t laugh at themselves
41. They belittle your accomplishments
42. They compete with you
43. They often gaslight you
44. They give you the silent treatment
45. They turn others against you including family
46. They alienate children from the other parent
47. They withhold attention or affection as a manipulation tactic
48. They give you inconsistent details of their past
49. They are ruled by money and want yours
50. They get bored easily
51. They are status orientated
52. They are self-centred and entitled
53. They have a big ego
54. They groom their victims
55. They badmouth their exes yet return to them to make you jealous
56. When meeting a potential partner they love bomb them.
57. They remember things you did years ago and bring them up in arguments
58. They rewrite history to suit them
59. Can pretend to be hyper-emotional so they can manipulate others
60. They might constantly correct you – nothing you do is ever right

If you think you are indeed dealing with a narcissist and need support, then please feel free to contact me. Detaching from or dealing with a narcissist is not an easy task, especially if they are a partner or family member.

If you feel you are in danger, then please contact your nearest Refuge or move to a location the narcissist doesn’t know about. Record all conversations if you can (stick to texts or emails) so nothing can be used against you.

Most of all, look after yourself. Self-care is extremely important!

Love Athina ♥♥♥

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