You might have heard of the term infantilization but you may not realise how incredibly abusive it is when a parent does this to their child.
It is only natural for a growing child to start developing independent thoughts, actions and opinions. For a narcissistic parent this can be very threatening, as they want to continue controlling their child and use them for narcissistic supply.
Check out my video for an explanation of what infantilization is.
Some examples of infantilization are as follows:
A parent stops a teenager from socialising with friends or doesn’t allow them any privacy in their bedroom. The parent may still treat them as if they are a young child whereas a teenager needs growing independence and privacy.
A parent buys their child age-inappropriate clothing and/or arranges age-inappropriate activities.
A parent might not allow the child to speak for themselves, when they are asked a question directly by somebody else.
A parent might discourage the child from pursuing new interests as they don’t want the child to become more skilled at new things than they are.
If a parent isn’t able to have healthy relationships, they may try to influence the child against their choice of partner. They can’t allow their child to leave the family nest. The parent wants to continue their enmeshed relationship for as long as possible.
The effects of infantilization are as follows:
- The adult child ends up having chronically low self-esteem
- The adult child has difficulties academically
- The adult child may find getting a job difficult
- The adult child learns helplessness and enabling
- The adult child may self-harm
- The adult child may have poor social skills
- The adult child may self-sabotage
- The adult child may become avoidant
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This was so interesting!
Thank you ❤
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That’s an accurate description of the strategies my Narc parent used before I became an adult. In her desperation to destroy my life as an adult she created a smear campaign about me to undermine my marriage, and alienate my children and other family members against me. In the midst of her evil behavior the Doctors discovered that she had breast cancer. I remember her asking me each time that she went into remission if I had been tested for breast cancer too. She seemed disappointed each time that I said that I had been tested and didn’t have breast cancer. I think it was killing her that I would live and have a chance to survive her efforts to destroy me.