Highly sensitive person – COURAGE COACHING

When you have grown up in a dysfunctional narcissistic home, taking on others’ emotions becomes the norm. Narcissistic parents teach their children to cater to their feelings & moods and the child learns to ignore their own emotions.

A great book which can help you understand whether you have weak emotional boundaries, is by Charles Whitfield: Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self.

The following statements from his book, can help you identify whether you struggle with taking on others’ emotions and neglecting your own.

Answer with “never,” “seldom,” “occasionally,” “often,” or “usually.”

I feel as if my happiness depends on other people.
I would rather attend to others than attend to myself.
I spend my time and energy helping others so much that I neglect my own wants and needs.
I tend to take on the moods of people close to me.
I am overly sensitive to criticism.
I tend to get “caught up” in other people’s problems.
I feel responsible for other people’s feelings.

If you reply mostly with ”often” or ”usually”, then this is something you should consider getting support for. This means that you are extremely affected by the emotions & moods of those around you and aren’t able to focus on your own needs first.

If this is something you relate to and need support for, then please leave a comment below.

Thanks for reading

Love Athina ♥

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People who are highly sensitive are born that way; it is not something that is learned.

The scientific term for high sensitivity is “sensory-processing sensitivity” (SPS).

Highly sensitive people have the following traits:

They feel more deeply.
They’re more emotionally reactive.
They’re probably used to hearing “Why are you so sensitive?”
Highly sensitive people are introverts but 30% of HSP’s are extroverts.
They’re more prone to anxiety or depression
That annoying sound is probably significantly more annoying to a highly sensitive person
They cry more easily and are deeply empathetic to other people’s emotions.
Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people
They’re crushed by bad decisions
They take longer to reach decisions
They are highly conscientious
They tend to be highly intuitive & can tell when someone they care about is upset
They are incredibly observant
They can be easily overwhelmed by bright lights, too much noise, big crowds, strong smells or uncomfortable clothing.