Nobody told you when you were a child that life could feel so tough sometimes.
Nobody told you that life could drain the joy right out of you, just when you thought things were getting better.
Life is a crazy rollercoaster and you have to ride it out, no matter what it throws at you.
It might be that your boss criticizes you, no matter how much extra work you put in.
It might be that your partner who once made you smile, now only seems to point out all your flaws.
Your family might be hopeless at supporting you and instead always tells you when you have let them down.
Your looks fall short of what is considered beautiful, your body has piled on the pounds and your health is deteriorating.
Your money problems never seem to end and you are surrounded by angry, hateful and impatient people.
Everywhere you seem to look, there are people pointing out what is wrong with you.
Your career isn’t where it is supposed to be. You still aren’t married and people think there is something wrong with you for not wanting to have kids.
Even people with the best self-esteem, can end up feeling horrible.
Everywhere you look, people are pointing out that you are a failure..
Outer criticism ends up becoming inner criticism. That inner criticism ends up taking hold of your daily life and you can’t seem to silence that nasty little voice inside you that tells you, you have failed.
You might have once been a reasonably confident person and now you are nowhere near that.
Do you find yourself being haunted by this inner voice of failure? Do you find yourself needing to apologise for things that are out of your control?
Are you sorry that you couldn’t do better at work? Then you failed
Are you sorry that you couldn’t lose weight? Then you failed
Are you sorry that your partner left you? Then you failed
Are you sorry that you are too sick to support your family? Then you failed
Are you sorry that you are struggling with the housework? Then you failed
Are you sorry that everything is too stressful? Then you failed
These negative thoughts are very harmful, even though you may not think so. When you internalise self-doubt your body absorbs it. Your muscles tense and you can actually become physically ill from it. If you allow others negativity to affect how you see yourself, then this might become a vicious cycle.
Have you ever noticed that when an abusive spouse, parent or boss criticizes you, you get nervous and are more likely to make more mistakes? The more difficult the people around you, the more on edge you feel and the more clumsy you may become. This was definetely the case with me for many years…
It is crucial to be aware of how destructive it can be to give your control away to others. If you constantly accept that you are a failure, because you judge yourself through others’ eyes, then you will eventually freeze. You will stop trying, you will stop living..
So how do you change this? How do you manage to keep the negativity that surrounds you away?
First of all, remember this! You are NOT A FAILURE!
You are not a failure because you failed your driving test.
You are not a failure because your relationship ended.
You are not a failure because you lost your job.
You are not a failure because you don’t want kids.
You are not a failure because others think you are.
Making mistakes in life is NORMAL. Making mistakes in life doesn’t mean that you are a failure. A mistake is just a mistake! This doesn’t make you anything less than wonderful.
Mistakes help you learn and at least you were brave enough to take on new opportunities.
Every time you catch yourself telling yourself that you are a failure, then say the word ‘STOP’. You are not a failure..
Remind yourself of all the good things you have done and that you are proud of. Even the tiniest things can mean so much! Don’t let others define you. Nothing matters more than the opinion YOU HAVE of yourself.
Never apologise for not being good enough because you are a valuable and worthy person. No matter how much others judge you, don’t let their voice drown out your own.
YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!
Love Athina ♥
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