Cluster B disorders

Weaponised incompetence

Weaponized incompetence is a form of passive-aggressive behavior where an individual deliberately performs tasks poorly or pretends to be incapable of completing certain tasks. This manipulation tactic is often used to avoid responsibility, forcing others to take over. It doesn’t always come from a bad place because it can stem from a lack of confidence or self-esteem. They may genuinely believe that they’re unable to perform a certain action or task.

When it comes to narcissists however, the intent is much more malicious. It is much more calculated and intentional.

Feel free to watch my YouTube video below to find out more about it.

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Love Athina

Narcissistic mother & passive/enabling father

Growing up with a narcissistic mother is very painful and isolating. If you are lucky enough to at least have an empathetic father, that alone can help you feel a little less alone. What happens however when your father is really loving and caring towards you but unfortunately fails at the part where he has to protect you from your mother’s abuse? When he isn’t strong enough to stand up to his wife’s demands, he also lets you down and enables your mother’s abuse.

It is especially tough when he tells you in private that he knows your mum is a difficult person but still doesn’t protect you from her hurtful actions. This still leaves you feeling hopeless as you don’t truly have your father on your side.

If this is you, then watch my most recent video below.

Love Athina

How covert narcissistic mothers create shame

In this video, I discuss how narcissistic mothers and particularly covert narcissistic mothers create shame in their children.

Sadly these feelings of shame, follow these children into adulthood and contribute to the trauma these individuals live with.

Watch the video to find out more.

Love Athina

https://youtube.com/watch?v=j4h7Vcpcb_I%3Fsi%3DuK-PQWTllFVw5uDL

Do narcissists have a moral compass?

In this video, I talk about narcissists and whether they have a moral compass.

In some cases, people may argue that narcissists can actually feel guilt when they have done something wrong and they can also feel ashamed.

It is important to take into account that somebody with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) also has a unique character, history of trauma and a certain outlook on life. All these must be taken into account when considering whether they have a moral compass.

In my experience, I would say narcissists definitely choose to ignore the things that they have done wrong to others but are quick to inflict the moral high ground on others, if they don’t agree with what these others have done.

Watch the video to find out more on this topic!

Love Athina

https://youtube.com/watch?v=EQFnweHx-j4%3Fsi%3DEzowtWXjMaGx4MZ7

Signs that you are gaslighting yourself

In this post, I wanted to mention the important topic of gaslighting.

If we have survived years of emotional abuse by a parent or a partner who has been gaslighting us, this then ends up becoming our own internal voice. This is known as gaslighting ourselves.

Watch the video to find out more!

Did your narcissistic parent call you selfish?

Narcissistic mothers, especially the covert type, are experts at projection and will habitually project their own negative emotions onto their children.

Selfishness is one of them.

Many adult children of narcissistic parents will have experienced this in some capacity or their parent may have simply called them something else, such as ‘spoilt’ or ‘too sensitive’.

What is your experience?

How does it feel when your narcissistic mother dies?

When this day finally arrives, the grief process is complicated and is full of contradicting emotions.

Losing a dysfunctional mother can be freeing but can also be devastating.

Watch the video to find out more

Narcissistic fathers & their daughters

A topic very close to my heart, having grown up with a narcissistic father I adored who also happened to be highly narcissistic and dysfunctional.

My father passed away 3 years ago now and I am still dealing with the conflicting emotions his death left me with.

If you struggle with the effects of having had a narcissistic father, then this video is for you! Much love to you!

Athina

Youtube video- Narcissistic mother & son enmeshment

Narcissistic mother & son enmeshment is real and is something that affects many adult sons of narcissistic mothers.

If you feel that your mother is overly controlling towards you, doesn’t allow you to form relationships & is envious of your partner, then you must watch this video to educate yourself on this destructive dynamic.

If you have any questions at all or need support talking about your experience with a mother like this, then please get in touch by emailing me at courageisallyouneed@gmail.com

Love Athina