Category: Self-reflection & self-awareness

The aftermath of a traumatic incident

As much as I dislike watching the news and tend to limit what I take in, it is increasingly difficult to not be affected by the constant bombardment of war footage, terrorist attacks, murder and suffering. When you are a highly sensitive & empathetic… Continue Reading “The aftermath of a traumatic incident”

Finding a balance between self-soothing and running away from emotional pain is tough..

Inspired by a comment made by a friend on her facebook page, I wanted to address the difficulty of finding a balance between self-soothing and running away from emotional pain. I also wanted to write about what it actually means to self-soothe. Self-soothing is… Continue Reading “Finding a balance between self-soothing and running away from emotional pain is tough..”

Avoidant Personality-Video II

In yesterday’s video, I decided to talk about Avoidant Personality in a little more detail, as my first video became very popular in a short amount of time and many viewers reached out to me with questions . In this video I discuss some… Continue Reading “Avoidant Personality-Video II”

Mental Health Awareness week

Ending the stigma of mental health is still proving to be a challenge, although in the UK we are getting ever closer to our goal of a deeper understanding, tolerance & acceptance of the importance of talking about our mental health. As somebody who… Continue Reading “Mental Health Awareness week”

Why & How to stop over-explaining

Following on from my post Are you a chronic over-explainer? , I now want to address why & how to actually stop over-explaining. As I mentioned in my previous post, many individuals who suffer from low self-esteem or people-pleasing, have an almost compulsive need… Continue Reading “Why & How to stop over-explaining”

Approval seeking

Approval seeking is a very common behaviour that all of us are guilty of at some point in our life. It might be that we are trying to impress someone we like, make a new friend or make a good impression on our new… Continue Reading “Approval seeking”

Dealing with parental estrangement

If you have become estranged from your parents, it’s important to remember that this can be a very vulnerable place to be. Making the decision to become estranged from your family may alleviate some of the instant emotional pain after a huge argument, however,… Continue Reading “Dealing with parental estrangement”

The loss of what should have been

When you don’t get certain basic needs met in your childhood, there will come a time in your future where you will eventually become awakened to these unmet needs. Although this isn’t the same for everyone, there is usually one feeling which is most… Continue Reading “The loss of what should have been”

Psychological Projection-A defense mechanism that people with NPD use often

Dear friends I am hope you are enjoying your weekend and are generally doing ok. Before I fly off to Scotland tomorrow, I wanted to upload Monday’s Youtube video early, as I won’t be able to work on it when visiting family. This week’s… Continue Reading “Psychological Projection-A defense mechanism that people with NPD use often”

Infantilization

You might have heard of the term infantilization but you may not realise how incredibly abusive it is when a parent does this to their child. It is only natural for a growing child to start developing independent thoughts, actions and opinions. For a… Continue Reading “Infantilization”